Mystery Blogger Award!

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Hi everyone! I am so honored to have been nominated for the Mystery Blogger Award by Books, Life, and Everything Nice! She’s an amazing blogger! Please check out her blog. A great big thank you for the nomination!

The award was created by Okoto Enigma. The explanation on her blog is as follows:

The “Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion.
– Okoto Enigma

RULES

  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog
  2. List the rules.
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  6. You have to nominate 10 – 20 people
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
  9. Share a link to your best post(s)

3 Things About Myself:

  1. I want to retire in Minnesota.
  2. I cannot play the piano but can play the violin.
  3. I love ultra running but have no desire to do a triathlon.

My Questions:

  1. What’s the funniest experience you’ve had on vacation? When in Hawaii, I went to a ranch and learned to lasso!
  2. What’s your favorite reading snack? Coffee and bread!
  3. How do other people describe you? Intense and passionate
  4. Of which accomplishment from last year are you most proud? Writing 31 stories for STORYADAY MAY
  5. What 3 things would you tell your younger self? Don’t follow the status quo. Follow all the white rabbits you want to and don’t be afraid.

My Nominees

https://lifewithktkinnes.com/

https://cornishmaidblog.com/

https://lifetravelsoul.com/

https://exquisitely.me/

https://bekadaisies.com/

https://bitchininthekitchen.org/

https://artsychiccreations.wordpress.com/

 

My Questions for them:

1.What was something you used to believe, but you no longer do?

2.What were the components of your best day ever?

3.What are you working on you are excited about?

4.Once upon a time or It was a dark and stormy night?

5.What do you find fills your creative well the best?

 

My 3 Favorite Posts

One – Quick Dinner

Two – Emotional Bank Account

Three MAGIC!

Sunday Morning Coffee Talk

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Let’s take our cup out on the porch! The sun is shining and the weather is pleasant and not humid today!

Yesterday I meet with a friend and colleague to talk through the first two chapters of Onward Cultivating Emotional Resilience in Educators by Elena Aguilar. I was introduced to this author and coach by my wonderful coach Lisa Vahey. Elena was recently on the Cult of Pedagogy podcast talking about the new book which sparked new interest.

On the way to work I was listening to the podcast. When I arrived at school my friend Erica had listened to the same podcast the same morning. We decided it was a sign to meet and go through the book together.

The program is designed to progress over the course of a year. As the coach, I plan on using elements of the books (text and workbook) in my PD’s,  but the deep work will be with Erica.

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The first chapter is “Know Yourself”.

I had the teachers do the 16 personalities quiz at the beginning of the school year which changed conversations for the rest of the year. You know something is effective and sticks when the personality letters keep getting brought up in casual conversation and people joke about it. It really started a ripple effect.

I am constantly trying to figure out how to make my coaching “sticky-er” as Vahey would say. Core values is an avenue I want to explore more with my teachers this coming school year and is part of the chapter. Danny “Sunshine” Bauer has a wonderful podcast called The Better Leaders Better Schools. He also has a “mini-podcast” that addresses snippets of great ideas called the School Leadership Series. He has stories attached to his core values. I want to incorporate this idea in my own practice. I will be writing more once the school year starts but you can check out the episodes “Rule 6” “the Big Dominio” and “Honey badger spirit” for the story examples.

Erica and I are old enough and have been teaching long enough to know ourselves pretty well. I am happy to say that there are elements in Auguliar’s book that were new which is always welcome. Sociopolitical identity groups was a new one. Erica and I talked about our personality type (we have almost all the same letters) and white advantage. We talked about how the groups we belong to and culture can affect how we deal with students.

The second chapter is “Understand Emotions”. The beginning paragraph really sums up how I feel about emotions. I take things personally about 4 days out of the year and I will cry because my feelings get hurt. I teach with someone who is the opposite so that is a big joke too.

Elena’s quote sums up this chapter for me and my feelings about emotions:

Whether in response to my own emotions or those I perceived in others, my mindset was, I see that you’re sad, and I’m sorry, but deal with it. Wipe off those tears. Get to work. It wasn’t that I lacked empathy, but I didn’t believe that there was a need to explore the emotions that adults had, or that it was my role. P. 45

I am looking forward to diving more into these books.

In other news…

I am reading an advanced copy of Meant to Be Broken by Brandy Woods Snow and I am so excited. It has started out fantastically and I am looking forward to sharing the review in all the places when I am done reading. Look for that soon!

I finally finished:

I enjoyed it. I would put it in a book flight with Mr. Penumbra’s 24-Hour Bookstore Novel by Robin Sloan and Rodrigo Corral.

Questions for us to consider and converse about today:

Do you know what your core values are? I really had to think about it in my conversation with Erica yesterday. I really pondered what situations really bend me out of shape and what I fundamentally have an issue with…Erica and I had a real conversation about the difference between integrity and honesty too. (integrity is one of my core values BTW)

Cannot wait to hear your thoughts to this idea or anything this beautiful Sunday! What do you want to talk about?

Happy Sunday!

Wait! She’s Trying to Remember the Rest!

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I am continuing my funny stories from my teaching career.

Last month I attended an amazing workshop with Jack Berckemeyer and his colleagues. One of the main components of their presentations is FUN. As I was listening I started a list of funny stories from my teaching career. Every teacher has funny stories of situations with students and I have decided to write some of them down.

Laughter helps you lose weight, live longer, and lower your blood pressure. Bring on the guffaws!

Wait! She’s Trying to Remember the Rest!

To quiet students, I use Harry Wong’s GIMME 5.

It is a nonverbal that if established can be effective.

When first introduced you say the 5 things – one for each finger. I believe I modified from the original 5 from Wong.

Stop moving.

Stop talking.

Look at me.

Listen.

Think.

When I was a reading specialist I convinced an old school teacher to let me in his room to teach writing. No one knew really why he let me in when he had let no one in previously. In his class, there was a student who was 6ft tall in 5th grade and sat in the center of the room in the back row. He was a leader in stature and culture.

While in the process of starting my lesson I had established the gimme 5 signal. I would go through each step until they complied and then move on. If they were still talking I wouldn’t move on.

One day I started with “Gimme 5, stop moving, stop talking…” I was waiting for them to stop talking when the larger than normal 5th grader said…Quiet! She’s trying to remember what the rest of them are!”

I remember saying, I didn’t forget and then started laughing.

 

Giving Up Part 2 #SOL18

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To continue my ponderings on time I have been evaluating more about the people in my life. Even though there are many people I genuinely care about, I don’t usually choose to spend time with them. Sometimes I’m not sure why. There are times I choose to invest the time and the output results are rejuvenation, excitement and a distinct feeling it was time well spent. On the opposite of the spectrum, if I have a couple encounters with a particular group of people where I don’t feel fulfilled then I start to question whether I should spend any time with them at all. The strange notion here, is typically I don’t look at this from an emotional standpoint, I look at this from purely from an input/ output perspective which makes it feel wrong to me in some way. I am an INTJ, which I think contributes to this issue.

Continuing the ponderings about STUFF – The years before I divorced I had self-imposed a massive purge on the belongings in my house. We lived in a house approximately 2700 square feet and had become the dumping ground for other people’s cast-offs. By the time I moved out, the number of belongings was minimal in comparison to what I owned before. Then the circumstances dictated I move three more times within a short period of time which required more purging. Most of the books still remained!

For roughly the last two years I’ve been living in a house with 4 children (shared) on and off and a husband and we have accumulated the things that are necessary to live in a house and to decorate it. When we began the packing process the boxes started adding up at an alarming rate but without much furniture. The house we rented came with some lovely antique furniture that we treasure while we had the change. I was truly surprised at the amount of stuff we have accumulated.

This is simply one of the systemic cycles I navigate through.

I purge.

I accumulate.

I purge.

I move

It starts again.

I try to be very conscientious of what comes into the house. To be honest, the last 2 years there have been very few disposable income purchases because there has been no money for it.

So the question of the day is: What is worth keeping?

I believe in resale shops, thrift stores, and Goodwill purchases. I also believe in donating all the purge items when I am in that part of the cycle. However, when you find yourself in a temporary dwelling that is not your own, you do not have the need for furniture and certain household items. To purchase all of it again would be silly when we find our next home. So then comes the dilemma – the consideration is made for what you pay for storage as opposed to how much the items you are storing are worth. Monetarily if I purchased it all at the second-hand store it would cost me more to store it then it would compared to what I paid for it. I do not have an emotional attachment to it either. There is the cost of the time and energy to move these items as well.

Furniture was therefore abandoned.

Let the next cycle of purging begin! I do not want to move all these boxes to the next house!

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My question to you today is: What is something you may not have paid much money for,  but you are willing to shoulder other costs to be able to keep it?

#Everydayhappy Slice of Life #SOL18

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Thank you for Two Writing Teachers for sponsoring the SLICE OF LIFE challenge every Tuesday!

This week when I was listening to my normal podcast queue I clicked on Jenny Blake’s PIVOT podcast. This week was especially inspiring and I was super excited to listen. I made a bunch of notes for writing and for projects for students when I go back to school in August. I even started listening to the podcast again which is something I rarely do.

The guest for the interview was Dev Ajula who wrote the book 50 Ways to Get a Job. It isn’t just a book about finding a job but seems to be an inquiry into who you are. I have a reserve on the book at the library and have checked out the website that goes along with the book.

Jenny Blake is also an author. Her book is also called Pivot like the podcast. She has a great newsletter.

There are lots of great parts but one in particular is when Dev is talking about his apartment and making it personal just for him. He had visited other people’s spaces and thought it was appealing because it was more sophisticated or bigger but realized it was fine tuned to the owner. He wanted to emulate this practice so he put his chair in a space where it sits in the sun at 3 pm and sits in it. He also painted all his radiators white. Small things that made a difference to him.

On my blog I write about #everydayhappy. Those little things that just make your day but are uniquely your own. These items or actions spark joy for you.

I asked from friends this question: What makes you #everydayhappy? Little things that spark joy for you? A certain coffee mug? A certain pen?

#Everydayhappy things for me are a favorite coffee mug to drink my coffee in. I also have a certain fountain pen I adore. I love the feeling and writing in a new notebook. I also moved my coffee pot into my bedroom instead of the kitchen.

The List

Carrie: Opening up the windows in my house to enjoy the fresh breeze

Marta: My husband making coffee for me. The dogs resting in the sun. A joyful laugh.

Eva: Perfect song to match my mood coming on, more coffee left in the pot when I thought it was gone, red lipstick

Sarah: Great day texts from co-workers

Rachael: My dog leaning on me as I write

Julie: Sitting under a tree looking up through the leaves at sunlight preferably with a stream running nearby. That or a fresh notebook page…

Marian: calls the pecans out of the mixed nuts “happies”!!!!!

I am @tlbreit on Twitter and you can respond there with your own #everydayhappy ideas or in the comments below.

What are the things that spark joy for you that are personal to you? I would love to read them! I bet some of your are so good I would want to borrow them and add them to my own list.

#everydayhappy

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Sunday Morning Coffee Talk

 

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Come sit with me and have a cup of coffee and let’s chat!

I am thinking about the question today: What makes me feel most alive? It comes from Emily P. Freeman who I adore as an author and speaker.

After I read this question in her book, A Million Little Pieces I realized I didn’t know the answer automatically.

What I used to think from a couple years ago, and what I think now is gravely different.

Now, writing makes me feel alive. Just the process really. I do enjoy the POWER SURGE from getting published or simply a comment from a reader, but the act of writing is where the joy and life is for me.

I used to say running made me feel alive. Working out does to a certain extent but now it is more of a necessity and tires me more than an elixir.

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Reading always makes me feel alive. Always. I love to think about the way that people think and learn something too. Any recommendations for me today?

Most importantly, my husband and my children make me feel alive. The love I give and receive from them compares to nothing else.

Thanks for sitting with me and helping me work through this question this Sunday morning!

What makes you feel most alive? Let’s make this a conversation…

 

 

3-2-1 Quote Me!! “Success”

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Thank you to Bitchin’ In The Kitchen for this nomination!

A Guy Named Bloke is responsible for this tag and it is super fun.

Here is how it works:

The rules of the tag are very simple:

• Thank the Selector

• Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

• Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

The topic set for me and my tagees is ‘Success’ so a huge thank you again for tagging me Bitchin’!

What does success mean to me?
Honestly if I was to answer this five years ago the answer would be very different than the one then I am writing today.
In my opinion, success is meeting your own goals that align with your personal passions, what you are good at, and your beliefs. It is about the way you make a difference in the world.
It is not what everyone else wants you to do, no matter what social media says.

Goals are dreams with a strategic plan.

Success if feeling peace with your life and how it is constructed is success no matter what that looks like for you. Work life balance is a lie that is created to make people feel guilty for how they live their lives. When people feel inadequate it is much easier to control them. Advertisers prey on this concept.
Success in my career a couple years ago would have meant lots of travel and hours at work.
Now? I would love to work from home and limit travel to mostly family trips. I limit trips from the house as much as possible.

Here are my two SUCCESS quotes:

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All of our experiences make us who we are. Some of these events are within our control, and some are not. There is a point of “before and after” when you realize what is important to YOU and your life, and what is not. Then decisions start to be made, your life looks different, and the people in your life change.

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Perception and mindset are important to how you view success. I love this quote above. Drive and how you approach situations is a big indicator of success. Not really luck.

I tag these FABULOUS bloggers!

Marian

The Cozy Pages

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