A Question of Childhood

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Several years ago I learned about the 36 questions to become closer to someone. In the New York Times, the article was titled The 36 Questions that Lead to Love. I am always fascinated by questions. As an introvert, I learned to have a question ready when attending a social event in case the conversation lulled. I prefer to have deeper conversations as opposed to surface level ones.

As part of the Twowritingteachers.org challenge this year, I will be answering some of the questions and then you have the opportunity to journal about the question, ask a person you want to be closer to, or answer in the comments.

My childhood was not full of trauma and I was privileged. My parents have stayed together which was unusual among my friends. When I was little I spent a lot of time at my maternal grandparents. Every vacation and weekend was spent with them til the summer of my 8th grade year in school.

I also spent the majority of my time from age 2.5 to 5 at my Oma’s house. That is my recollection anyway. I had friends in the neighborhood I played with outside every day. They all thought I lived there permanently. I did too. Whenever I went “home” it always felt like I was visiting my parents just waiting to go back to Oma’s.

When it came time for me to go to kindergarten I was upset that I had to go to school in my parent’s town, not my grandparents.

At this point in my life I wish I would have started and continued my school life in my grandparents town. My life would have turned out a lot differently if I had followed that path. When my friends found out I was coming to school with them, the relationship changed. There was a lot I missed out on being there on the weekends after school started.

I cannot go back to that time and the decision was not mine to make but it would have been interesting to see the trajectory if that was the path had been chosen for me.

5 thoughts on “A Question of Childhood

  1. “Whenever I went ‘home’ it always felt like I was visiting my parents just waiting to go back to Oma’s.” This is such a powerful quote and so much how little kids think. Do you think you ever said it to your parents? You have reminded me of a comment my son made when I picked him up at the airport after a visit with his Papa and Mama. He was about 10, and when I saw his tears, I assumed they, like mine, were because he was glad to see me. Instead, he said, “I wish I didn’t have to leave them.” Thanks for the memory!


    • I did say it to my parents and they were angry. I tried to convince them to let me go to school in the town with my grandparents and I got some sort of “You are our child and will live with us and go to school” I am sure my feelings were hurtful to them even though that was not intentional. I often wanted to be in two places at once though. I feel that might have been where your son was at emotionally. I felt guilty that I wanted to stay with my grandparents sometimes. I remember my mom getting angry about it a lot.


      • You are absolutely spot on here with that “two places at once” emotional conflict. Thank you.


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